What do you base your worth on? Is it what people say about you? What people think of you? How they react to something you do? Do you base your worth on the expectations that others put on you? If you can’t succeed those expectations then you lower your self-worth. Because if you can’t meet expectations, if you can’t be that perfect person, if you can’t please everyone, if you can’t be employee of the month or student of the year, if you can’t be recognized for your own personality and who you were created to be then your not worthy… right?
This is something I have struggled with all my life. I want to be liked, I want to be loved, I want to please everyone, I want to meet everyone’s expectations. If I don’t I lower my self-worth. Why? To me, if I couldn’t succeed in any of these areas I was a failure. Why would somebody want to hang around a failure? Why would someone like a failure? Why would someone love a failure?
I would put my focus on these earthly things, I would let my mind wander to these areas of my life and worry about how I will succeed so that someone will recognize me and see the true me, without judging my personality. All of my friends were so “cool” and then there was just me. I let this become my identity.
I tried to change who I was so that people would like me. Sometimes that meant acting like my friends, sometimes it meant acting like a total snob. I tried on mask after mask trying to get people to like me. l still had friends, but I was never as cool as them. I just wanted people to see my talents, to see that I am loving and compassionate, to see that I am worth something. But I also wanted them to see that I was human and I can’t always meet everyone’s expectations, I can’t always please everyone, that some of the choices I make may be disappointing to some people.
One day, I learned something new. I didn’t have to worry about what others thought of me. I didn’t have to focus on pleasing them. And there was someone who I was worthy too. So worthy, that He died on the cross for me.
His name is Jesus Christ. He loves us so much that He took it to the Cross. He rose three days later. He defeated the grave. He took victory over death. In this, we can find our worth.
My friends, you are worth so much more than you can ever imagine. So much, that someone died for you. They put their life on the line for you. If that does not make you feel worthy, then maybe this will: God sent His only son, Jesus Christ, to die for you. So, not only was this man willing to sacrifice His live for you, but His father was willing to sacrifice His one and only son.
Take your focus off of what others classify you as. In the end, the only opinion that matters is God’s. Take a stand and be an example to others and pass this along.
John 3:16-18 (MSG)
“This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn’t go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again. Anyone who trusts in him is acquitted; anyone who refuses to trust him has long since been under the death sentence without knowing it. And why? Because of that person’s failure to believe in the one-of-a-kind Son of God when introduced to him.”